Is This What Love Is?

I've always been the type to do well by other people. Despite the bull they may put me through, I still remain the bigger (wo)man. If it were a business transaction gone wrong, I still remain professional. A romantic/intimate relationship gone wrong, I still remain cordial; unless some mutual agreement has been made to never communicate again (one-sided included).

It has come to my attention that we are in a time where we have lost the respect, care, and love for ourselves and one another, as people. I live day to day, and I am very appreciative and thankful for what is placed on my plate, despite how it makes me feel. I learn from every experience I encounter. The information that I have processed over the last two weeks has made me even revamp the way I think and act on my relationships that I currently have, from work to personal.

For example, I learned of infidelity among a married couple that from the outside looking in, SHOCKING. But as the saying goes, if I were a fly on the wall...I'd say differently. I also learned of a similar event with a friend, who not only was not effected by the outcome, but had already moved on, preparing for the next one. I was not the brain cell that processed the vows on the married couple's wedding day, and I surely was not the eardrum that vibrated when he decided to apologize, a day late and a dollar short, about his newly started relationship! One thing is for sure, that's not loving your fellow man.

I cannot stress enough, if anything is going near wrong, TALK IT OUT! Communicate with one another about what is on your mind. You will only hurt yourself and the parties involved in the long wrong, if you decide to hold on until you are ready. Don't wait until 5 kids are produced to inform me that you have twins from the outside, while I just found out I'm carrying number 6 of your 8! Don't allow him/her to confront me at my front door or via voicemail message before you do! It's not fair to you or anyone indirectly involved!

It scares me to know that there was once a possibility that I could have been in any of these scenarios earlier in my life. It scares me to know that the possibility of something like this is much higher than I'd like it to be. Because at this point in time, we just don't give a damn about ourselves or one another anymore.

If this is the new definition of love, I don't want any of it.

Newbies

The norm when starting new relationships: general conversation, a number exchange, a few dates, the "reel in", and then see where things lead. In some cases, it may end up with general conversation, a few drinks, true colors come out, no number exchange, no further communication. Very rare instances: general conversation, number exchange, a back porch, scouting, band rehearsals, hours of laughs watching movies, to holding a flashlight on a leaking pipe in a basement...

Your verbal and non-verbals, every time I say or do something random let's me know you ain' ready. And when you do what you do, I can only get all warm and fuzzy inside. We've bypassed the norm. We don't have to reel each other in. With the two of us, the relationship will always be exciting...