We typically keep the same routine for everything we do: brushing our teeth, the order in which we drive, evaluating others based on negative opinions, to the food we eat everyday. In the past, I have made certain comments about things that are a little scary for me. For example, I've known this guy since I was 15 or so. He's x-amount of years older than I am. I've always looked to him as a big brother. He, not so much. He's always vocalized himself by saying things like, "I want to make love to you," and "You single now, and I'm not." That's not what I was trying to hear at 16! *blank stare :-/*
1)You don't know me to say things like that! 2)I've never voiced back to you that the feelings were mutual! As a matter of fact, you never stopped to find out! F)You can't keep a phone number long enough even if I did decide to call! MAGENTA)I could have Scola, and what you know 'bout that?! Since he mentally raped me at an early age, I carried these "rules" that I would never involve myself with a man like him. The rules ranged from age limitations, to the amount of women that thought they were exclusively his!
I have become quickly familiarized with the fact that those rules were never real! They only applied to him. And just like Quindeesha on Maury, pregnant again for the 8th time "Well, Maury, this time was different, because..." Setting limitations for ANY relationship (platonic included), also sets limitations for you. Yes, the possibility of your knife-wielding former girlfriend, three times removed would bother me! Yes, being around your side-eyeing family looking at me like I'm 8 (can't help how I look *kanye shrug*) while you're 15 years older than me, feels extremely awkward! However, I cannot and will not allow that to keep me from maintaining a healthy relationship with you. I am one of the few that was made with a personality that allows me to love you for you, regardless of handicaps.
Every-now-and-then, the norm doesn't apply. Every situation is different. Deal accordingly.
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ancytiIronically, statistics show that HEALTHY LONG-LASTING RELATIONSHIPS are at a staggering low!! -and who wouldn't be surprised when we consider the fact that everyone trys to set some type of super human/ super hero, long lasting impression on the people we take interest in? What is NORMAL? I never could understand how or who set the standard for being just a regular ass person. -besides, due to the evolution theory, I believe that we ALL are just mutated caveman babies wondering through life, thinking we have all the answers. HA! -joke's on US ALL!! The expectations of the above- average are a damnation and a wicked curse upon the exceptionally gifted. For anybody who knows the true root of love, we say what is true and possible, and do what we must for the sake of our loved one's heart with expectations of nothing in return. Guys . . . . 'I wanna make love to you' . . . . . SERIOUSLY . . . . but for real though. WOW! Is this the best we can do?
It's a simple and common fact that men prey on the emotional needs of seemingly vunerable women by using jargon or terminology that appeal to women. Words like: make LOVE (anything dealing with love), emotions, . . . . you get the picture, men think these are what women want to hear. Ironically, on a quiet night, try wispering to that special woman in you life that you want to put her up against the wall and 'beat her back out' and see just what happens. I know, I know . . . . . it sounds a bit insane and far-fetched, but give it a shot and see what happens. (FIREWORKS) -why is that? Is it because it's out of her norm and you, as a man were bold and expressive enough to share your innermost thoughts and desires? -Maybe. -or maybe she's just a Big Ole' freak (not likely). In the comics, almost every super hero strived to be a normal person with everyday problems and situations.
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