I Can't

We can no longer use this phrase like they want us to stop using the N word...

So, today was interesting. Oddly enough, I won't go into detail. Let's just say, after hearing so many of my friends and myself say it, and it's only the 17th day of the New Year, I've decided that after hearing someone say this, I think I will stand by it as well: AS OF TODAY, YOU CAN'T SAY CAN'T!

Can't is negative and reflects your performance and possibly those around you. So, for now on, when someone calls me and says, "Ms. T, I can't do this school thing," or "Ms. T, I can't reach the packet of tuna in the cabinet," I will hang up on you on purpose, call you back, and hang up on you again or I will call you tuna face for at least 2 weeks.

Honestly, when you think negative, you do negative. I really had to give it to a friend of mine today because he was ranting about school and how he was failing, when in all actuality, he is well above average and not failing. For him to give up on something he's wanted to do, whether because he didn't realize he wasn't going to cake walk through or what, just really disappointed me. I couldn't believe his logic. Sometimes, you have to look at all the options and alternatives to your situation. Sticking to the same way of thinking or learning is obviously not working. Therefore, try something different, until it works. Unfortunately, you can't just do like you did in high school and college as if you have time to make up.

And I had to do that myself with my occupation. I have to take other options into consideration before I just give up. Cassidy wasn't talking about me when he made the song I'M A HUSTLA. I can honestly say, I've never had to hustle a day in my life (at least not that I can recall). I'm stuck in the middle. For example, right now, a friend of mine and I are talking about economic classes. I've never been super poor (I have been on governmental assistance), so I am not trying to get out of that situation. And I've never been super rich, so I am not sitting on my ass or just relaxing with a job I can get by on because my father is golf buddies with the mayor. I am stuck in the middle. I am in a position where I can't really move. Not really. At least not at this moment.

A realization that I've always had is if you want something, you have to not only earn it, but be patient. Not everyone thinks like me. Nor, can they sit still long enough before their eyes pop out of their head from boredom. Nothing is going to come to you instantly. Nothing's going to come to you without you working for it. So if you say, "I can't...get this done, understand, go to work, learn this, exercise, flip this burger..." you CAN'T pretty much do anything!